Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Eliminating Tobacco Smoke


Every city, every business, every residential health care facility, can set clean air quality standards higher than state and national standards.
Every city, every business, every residential health care facility, can enforce clean air quality standards (and state and national standards) more effectively than states or the federal government.
Modern clean air quality standards, therefore, rest, by default, within communities. You do not have to breath second and third hand tobacco smoke.
It only takes one straw to break a camel’s back.  It only takes one exposure to second and third hand tobacco smoke to trigger a blood clot. That blood clot can then cause a stroke or heart attack at any time
Tobacco smoke is the number one preventable cause of illness.
Tobacco smoke is the number one preventable cause of early death (about 10 years on average for life long smokers); plus horrendous medical bills.
Alternative nicotine sources (nicotine lozenges) contain no smoke.
Nicotine addicted people are under stress in their daily lives.
The threat of being forced to quit is one more source of stress, which can decrease the rate of success to quit.
Replacing each cigarette with a nicotine lozenge eliminates tobacco smoke.
Replacing cigarettes with nicotine lozenges eliminates the stress of forced quitting.
Replacing cigarettes with nicotine lozenges allows timing to quit the cult successfully. No need to buy cigarettes. More free productive time.

Smoke Free City, San Antonio, TX, Memory Care Between a Main Entrance and Employee Entrance


Thursday, February 22, 2018

Falling


It is time to put falling into perspective. When Margaret fell backwards the other day that scared me. I could see the couple we ate with in the dining hall almost two years age. One fell backwards in their apartment; too far for the spouse to make a catch. Then hospital, then passing; then the spouse, who was very active in the fitness classes, passing.
Margaret’s falls at Provision Living are very different from the falls when we were refugees from the flood, and staying in skilled nursing in South Hampton Place. There she went down in a spiral. Her feet remained in place until her right hip hit the floor and she rolled out onto the tile floor; six times before the overdosing with Xanax was finally discontinued by the house doctor.

Found Under a Heavy Sleave
Three Weeks Later
Here, she has had a series of bruises from unknown causes. They tended to get worse as time passed. They healed well. There have been none over the past two weeks.

The rolling office chairs we have instead of a stuffed couch were suspected when I made the last trip to San Antonio. Then a series of events said something else; weight, her fit into the chair, and getup time. She is sliding, not falling out of the chair?
For two weeks she was up at 8:00 and out of the apartment. Safe and a bit sleepy. She napped. She took little part in exercise activities.
The last two days, she has refused to get up at 8:00. She is up before 10:00 when I go to a fitness class. Yesterday she came to the class with a group from memory care one. I was surprised to see her come in. She sat beside me, holding a two-pound weight the entire class.
I returned to memory care with the group. They wanted to do the ball bounce across the center of a circle of chairs. I immediately set Margaret in the circle as it was forming. She refuses to go to a chair in a completed circle.
We ended up with another person between us. I could now watch her facial expressions. What happened next was totally unexpected.
"Richard!"
After the ball was bounced to her a couple of times, she became Maggie of two years ago, at a slower pace. By the time the session ended all of the residents were again taking part; even two, out of memory care, staff joined in; who wandered in checking on things.
Was a fully rested Maggie showing different behavior from a drowsy Margaret?
We know that Margaret is sliding out of the office chair. I happened to have my i-phone near this computer when I heard a weak call, “Richard!” The chair does not move as she twists about
We also know that sliding out of the chair no longer bothers her. This is not a good habit. 
What is in This Box?
Waiting for Rescue
Getting down on the floor to play with her keepsakes is OK, but it takes two caregivers to return her to a chair once or twice a day. OR is the chair sliding out behind her?
So, the rolling chair is locked in an empty apartment. A fairly heavy straight chair, found by a caregiver, is now in place. My concern is that she may push the straight chair back and tip over backwards.
It is 7:06 on Wednesday morning with more things to do than I can take part in: 8:30, stretching; 9:15, swimming that overlaps; 10:00, Morning Movers, 10:30, In The Dust of Rabbi, a CD travel log of the how and where of the disciples of Christ; 3:00, Building Better Balance; 4:00, meditation; and three meals.
I need to be back here by 8:00 and observe what happens next.
8:55 one eye open and then back to sleep.
9:00 the third caregiver check on getting up.
9:43 the fifth caregiver check, morning pills, and easily up to the bathroom.
9:50 time for me to go to fitness class and to get the newspapers.
Up for the Day

9:55 out of the apartment and up for the day with our little memory car dog in escort. He seems to sense when people need help.


11:20 and back from Bible Study. Margaret did not get into the circle of chairs. Today she was already seated in the activity area when the circle was formed.
12:00 the frown is showing. Everyone needs to be on their watch.


6:50 am Thursday Fire drill!!! What a relief!! The alarm was turned off as soon as everyone was out of their apartments, while roll call was taken.
7:00 Margaret is sound asleep again.
Now it is 1:38 after a struggle to get the Mail message list to use a larger font on this MacBook Pro computer (failed). By Jove!!! The Blogger screen is larger now. So, need to look at Mail again.

I ate lunch (noon meal) with Margaret seated in the activity area watching U Tube trivia channel. Margaret was tapping her foot and nodding to Tennesse Ernie Ford.

She has yet to sit in the new straight chair (see previous post).

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Falling in Memory Care


This morning, Monday, a bit before 9:00 I saw Margaret fall backwards; this time onto the daybed. She may have tripped over her own feet. She may have been a bit dizzy from bending over and picking up a magazine. She may have . . ..
I pulled the call button at 9:00 and returned to reading the morning newspaper. No response by 9:15; some 5 minutes after the system repeats the call. No response by 9:35. I go looking for a reason the system is not working. There were three caregivers on duty in the dining/activity area.
What went wrong this time? First, I was an hour late going to breakfast; I was not  a backup for the 8:00 getup. Second, no one came at 8:00 to get Margaret up, dressed, and out of the apartment, in about five minutes, for a light breakfast. This plan has worked perfectly for over the past two weeks.
There is no explanation of why it works, but getting up late today recreates the performances of the past.
[10:05 I hear the laundry cart rattle. Margaret is pushing it in the bathroom. I wait. I take her left hand at that magic moment when her attention is changing. “Time for breakfast. Let’s go.” Pause. “Let’s go. Let’s go.” And to the apartment door. “Let’s go, let’s go” in a soft chant. And out into the hall.
R____ jumped to one side of the hall near his door. A grin spread across Margaret’s face. They both laughed. She greeted everyone in the activity area with a smile, a head nod, and her I’m OK grin. I return to writing.]
Dressing late is a struggle for all concerned. She is not a happy camper when the eyebrows arch and the vertical lines show between. After being ready for the day, the caregivers know to give her time to outlive the “worries”. 
This time the call system failed because one person did not have a pager but did hear the call in the office. Another said that memory care residents don’t use the system. Their calls are accidental trips.
[What is wrong with this picture? When the cord was not tied up it was near a towel and the handle on the commode. Margaret was pulling the chord more than once a day, at times. The correction was to tie up the cord and keep towels off the towel bar.]
All agreed that the 8:00 getup time was needed to be continued every day. Memory care rooms are visually checked periodically all day and all night.
[A pizza party was held, last week, to celebrate reducing the average call button response time in assisted living to less than four minutes. When problems are identified, they get fixed.]
1:30 and back from church streamed into the 3rd floor theater. Margaret came to our apartment door at 11:05. I asked her if she wanted to go to church. “I don’t know if I do,” as clear as can be!! We walked into the service, 10 minutes late, to a roaring community church rendition of How Great Thou Art. She was attentive all through the service and lunch.

Response Time in Room 133
(Written some time ago but I forgot to post it until it showed up this morning when I opened Word! My 2008 copy of Word selects old pages at random on opening.)
Margaret slowly slid to the floor in front of the windowed bookcase. The dining room table leaf rattled a bit. Her hand, sliding down the edge, may have controlled her soft landing on the floor in a seated position.
I pulled the bedroom call button: 9:17. Margaret seemed totally unflustered by being on the floor. This was a different behavior. I went back to writing while watching her. She went back to playing
I pulled the bathroom call button: 9:29. Margaret remained fully intent on her keepsakes on the bottom two bookcase shelves.
I walked to the office: 9:45. Three people were there. I again inquired, as I have done several times before, “Did you hear the bell?”
“Yes”. “Why did you not come to our room?”
“A--- responded to the call.”
“But no one came.”
“Here. See what the pager shows.”  Room 133.
S--- visits with me as other matters are cared for. Maggie is busy with her keepsakes. I learn that the personal call buttons show the person’s name rather than the room number.
I learn that A--- went to the apartment across the hall from ours: Room 134.
I remember B--- racing into our room twice in the last month to find our call buttons not pulled. She then going across the hall: Room 134.
“I remember to go to Maggie for 134 and to C--- for 133. I don’t know the room numbers.” A new person on the floor did not (rightly) associate call numbers with room numbers in this case.
“It seems the wiring has been corrected in the building but no one informed the caregivers.” The building is now over two years old.
This explains the false calls to our apartment over the past several months.
At the last residents council meeting, the call response time was severely questioned. It became clear that the system is not an emergency response system. An acceptable time was given as four minutes, on average. This makes sense as an, “I need some routine assistance,” system.
Also reported was a delay in responding to our call in memory care one, that was confused with a call, at about the same time, with a call made in memory care two.
The personal call buttons that show the person calling is a step up from the room call buttons. Experienced caregivers know what each resident needs at each time of day.
This works with experienced caregivers. One of our calls last month was not received because the pager was not turned on. Another because only one pager was functioning, so it was left in the office. At other times pagers were either missing or the batteries were dead.  Or people were not familiar with a new pager system.
The building does have an emergency call system. Call 401 on a room phone. Ours is under one of the Sleep Number beds where Maggie leaves it alone. The concierge can rouse who ever is needed, if you know this, and if you have access to a room phone. Also set your cell phone for the concierge (of course memory care residents normally do not have cell phones or room phones.)
11:15 Margaret just got up, flashed a big smile, and left the apartment. An hour’s nap made a complete personality change. The “worries” are gone and she is happy again. She could speak in one and two word sentences all afternoon!
The resident’s council meeting pointed out that a true emergency response system must include a real person and a means of communication (two way conversation). That is 911, for example. In house, such a system confirms the call (if no need for anyone to respond it saves manpower) or distributes the call to the appropriate person to respond in an appropriate time. In an emergency the line of communication would remain open until the responder checks in.
In San Antonio, three years ago, we found two separate systems for routine and emergency calls at one place, and a pendent with two buttons for routine and emergency calls. Maggie is now out in the activity/dining areas most of the day with about a five-minute check if she is not visible.
[The past two days, Margaret has refused to get up at 8:00! This leaves her in the room when no one is at hand. She has again slid onto the floor. We switched chairs (no arms and no wheels) to see what happens.]

Friday, February 16, 2018

The Responsible Use of Nicotine


What was learned at the, 13 February, Resident Council meeting has been summarized in the chart in operational terms: Condition of Employment, Training, and Uniform. The chart was distributed at a, 14 February, meeting at Provision Living with the Central Missouri Area Agency on Aging (CMAAA), Donna Wobbe, Director, 573-443-5823.
A few edits have been made to keep the chart on one page. It will be used in a working paper presentation to the staff at Provision Living, Thursday, 22 February 2018. Other comments:
Conditions of Employment
Employers who hire people with addictions that have a harmful effect on others at the site have a responsibility to minimize or eliminate the effect on smokers and non-smokers. This is the flip side of providing special arrangements for the physically and mentally “challenged”. A well established practice.
There is a counter culture that promotes tobacco smoking. Many states have laws prohibiting “life style” city ordinances. This made some sense at the time we knew little about the immediate effects of tobacco smoke.
Columbia, MO, promotes tobacco smoking by outdoor “smoker stations” in the downtown “The District” area to “protect the wild life” at the other end of the sewer system. This promotion also comforts nicotine addicted and non-addicted persons with the reassuring words, “If you smoke cigarettes, you have every right to do so.”
This is one of the main tobacco company lies. There is no such right (except where smoking has no effect on other people). It is important to the people taking in the money, to say this, so everyone is happy with their operation. The specter of “excess” deaths hanging over the area must be kept out of mind.
[Columbia, MO, City Code 16-231 Littering, states it is a Class A misdemeanor with up to one year in jail and up to $1,000 fine if (cigarette butt) litter escapes from property that permits littering.
This is a perfect example of how laws, that look good to the public, are passed with little if any attempt at enforcement. Owners are not interested in paying $1,000 fine for each night that butts stray into the street.]
Training
Our understanding of when tobacco smoke injures is changing as we learn more about how it injures. Blood platelets become sticky in about 30 minutes; promoting heart attacks and strokes (both tobacco and e-cigarettes). Vascular endothelial function is reduced in seconds; arteries then fail to enlarge when added oxygen is needed.
I measured indoor and outdoor air quality in northwest Missouri for several years. It came as a surprise to find an article, in March, 2017, that compared the fine particulate concentration from tobacco, marihuana, and “vaping”. They have the same concentration of toxic fine particles! It never occurred to me that burning and heating (charring?) would generate the same toxic particles.
It is the fine particulates that contribute to illness and “excess” deaths in smog. Burning tobacco with or without nicotine made no difference in their results. It is the smoke; not the nicotine, that is toxic.
“Vaping” seems to be a truth and another big lie. It can get a person, addicted to nicotine, to switch from tobacco to vaping (for about $60, at one store I visited). It can also get a non-addicted person addicted.
The CDC and FDA have yet to sort this out. Until they do, avoid vaping. Vaping generates a colorful third hand “smoke” with its own drug rituals.
Uniform
Several people have mentioned the smell of tobacco smoke. That used to be the end of the matter. Now it is a warning, of the presence of third hand tobacco smoke and the immediate results on health; that an addicted person is sharing for lack of knowing how to use, non-smoke containing, nicotine sources.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Tobacco Smoke Control in Memory Care


The chart relates important parts of effective tobacco smoke control in memory care presented at the Provision Living at Columbia, 13 February 2018, Resident Council meeting.

My trip to a smoke free city last week, San Antonio, Texas, made it very clear that common tobacco smoke control terms are confusing and misleading.
Source: First hand tobacco smoke is taken in by a smoker through the mouth. Second hand tobacco smoke is taken in through the nose. Smokers hold their cigarettes so as to avoid new second hand smoke. Third hand tobacco smoke exposure in memory care comes from the smoke that has settled in hair, clothes and bodies of smokers.
Restriction: Smoke free is an area that is free of smokers. It is not an area free of tobacco smoke. Tobacco free is an area free of smoking and free of tobacco smoke except for third hand tobacco smoke. Smoker free is free of tobacco smoke but can still be invaded by third hand tobacco smoke. These restrictions are not effective in memory care.
Smoker: The non-addicted smoker can honor a request to not smoke on the job and to even wait until after work to enjoy a smoke. Such a person does not carry a risk of tobacco smoke exposure to memory care residents. Addicted smokers must have an appropriate source of nicotine (lozenge) in a timely manner or burn tobacco to take in the needed nicotine in a toxic smoke.
Stage: Smokers who are quitting now find the smoke free environment in Provision Living a safe place to work. One still smokes when with relatives, however she no longer buys cigarettes.
Smokers can be classified by their readiness to quit and the amount they smoke by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) Missouri Quit Line, 1-800-784-8669, along with free counseling and a kit of alternative smokeless nicotine sources.
Alternative safe nicotine sources free of tobacco smoke not only provide help in breaking addiction but also provide an immediate elimination of third hand tobacco smoke in memory care. I found the lozenge is the most popular in local pharmacies.
Addicted caregivers could pick up needed lozenges for the shift when clocking in.
Three residents recited their experiences in quitting “cold turkey”. One left smoking behind when moving to Provision Living. One just quit; health and cost. Another was teased by friends to the point that he gave in. He then found out how much non-smokers “hated smokers”; for over 35 years that he had been smoking. 
A tobacco smoke cessation group was suggested. We now know that this must be done with the encouragement of the entire community to be successful.
The comment that membership would be kept private struck me as very odd. Success in breaking addiction demands a positive cooperative atmosphere. There must a celebration of purpose that overpowers the negative aspects of breaking free from addiction, or a significant emotional event like the three residents had before they moved into Provision Living.
The time has come that the “dirty secret” of exposing residents to third hand tobacco smoke in the residential health care community in Columbia needs to be made public to keep the air clean. Residential property is not a private place for people addicted to nicotine to share their toxic wastes.
The damage tobacco smoke does to the human body is no longer something that takes decades: lung cancer. The heart doctor we had an appointment with, prior to the resident counsel meeting, had the walls decorated with “Stop Smoking” and “Avoid Second Hand Tobacco Smoke.”
The threat to health is now known to be immediate. Blood platelets become sticky within 30 minutes of tobacco smoke exposure. Sticky platelets form clots. Clots cause heart attacks and strokes. Avoid second hand and third hand tobacco smoke.
My travels in the past four years still show Provision Living at Columbia to be the best for our money and for our care by radiant caregivers. Replace tobacco smoke with smokeless nicotine.

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Third Hand Tobacco Smoke Petition


The prior post stated the situation we are in with current tobacco control laws. Smoke-free means an area in which no one should smoke. It is also an area free from smoke drifting in from other areas.
This misses the third hand tobacco smoke carried into “smoke-free” and “tobacco-free” areas on a smokers hair, clothes, and body for the first 30 minutes to several hours after smoking.
Third Hand Tobacco Smoke Petition

The Third Hand Tobacco Smoke Petition puts this into an operational perspective. Tabulated confidential petitions record a patient’s or resident’s awareness of tobacco smoke exposure.
The tabulated petitions become votes. Columbia, MO, is divided into five legislative districts. The two central town districts are Democrat. The three more rural districts are Republican.
My first political act was to attend the annual League of Women Voters event at the library last Tuesday evening where I met the five representatives. Representative Chuck Basye was very respective to the handout in the prior post.
The tabulated petitions also provide feedback to owner management. Friday I had another call from San Antonio. A site our daughter-in-law picked out three years ago reported that their memory care is now staffed entirely by non-smokers. We can check this out next month.
A “smoker-free” site can eliminate most tobacco smoke exposure, however, there is still the problem with littering reported by our site director. Missouri House Bill No. 533 would add “cigarettes, cigars” to the state code on littering. A new Section 577.070.2 (3) ”If the offense of littering involves cigarettes or cigars the fine imposed under this section shall be twice the amount imposed for an offense not involving cigarettes and cigars”.
A class C misdemeanor carries a maximum 15 days in jail and a $700 fine in Missouri. Proper signage and a fake camera at the front door might reduce the time to police up the area each day. Cigarette buts are highly visible in the paved entry area.
Insurance purchased on the exchanges covers smoking cessation. Along with the CDC, 1-800-784-8669, the city of Columbia, 573-874-7356, has a free program.
Preventable illness and early death, from cigarette smoke used to get nicotine, are now being taken seriously by health agencies, but “the state tobacco control program is currently funded at only 0.1% of the CDC-recommended level”.




Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Tobacco Addiction Politics


The handout was prepared for a Resident Council meeting on 6 February, 2018. It turned out I had the wrong week! The meeting is next week.
Resident Council Handout

The top box contains the basis for actions now being taken by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) at one end of the spectrum of tobacco control and by well-informed responsible people everywhere. That means no tobacco smoke; first hand, second hand, and third hand.
My trip to San Antonio made it very clear that third hand tobacco smoke, the smoke from hair, clothes and body for the next 30 minutes to hours after smoking, that exposes patients and residents, was very confused with “smoke free” or as one person put it, “smoking free”.
2 Feb 2018 Wall Street Journal
People smoke to satisfy their need for nicotine.
The Wall Street Journal, Friday, 2 February, 2018, ran a full page “tombstone” ad making this every clear. [Tombstone ad; A full blank page with a simple message (addictive).] Thank W_____ for subscribing.
E_____ has quit smoking some time ago. L_____ is now on her second attempt. She stopped smoking at work. Work provided a safe place to not smoke. She no longer buys cigarettes. She is now down to smoking when she encounters others smoking. The smell of smoke is a powerful trigger to light up again.
The one site in San Antonio, we did not see, has confirmed that they are “encouraging” all employees to not smoke at work in memory care. They are aware of the effect of tobacco smoke on ill and aging people who do not smoke.
They may also be aware that people are increasingly asking for air as clean as in their own homes. The tourist industry is aware of this as it brings in new business. If we had to move, this place would be our first choice to check out.
The simplest way to obtain tobacco free conditions is to ban smoking on the property. For those so addicted that they cannot go nine hours without needing to adjust their blood nicotine levels, there are alternate nicotine sources to burning tobacco and breathing [a part of] the smoke.
Just Ask
Provision Living still has the opportunity to be the first large health care residential community in Columbia, Missouri, to offer a tobacco free memory care environment. We have one smoker in assisted living who, each day, makes an early morning trip out the front door to smoke.
The Best Place a Senior Adult Has Ever Lived
I am willing to put up to $1,000 into supporting the transition from cigarettes to lozenges to quitting, if others will match my contributions. [It cost a lot more to move.] Provision Living at Columbia has everything (radiant caregivers and facilities) in one building that my wife and I need to “thrive” with the exception of the every present third hand tobacco smoke.

[Bring fidget devices and nicotine lozenges to Resident Council meeting.]

Friday, February 2, 2018

Smoke Free San Antonio TX

A trip over the weekend, to a smoke free city, did not change how memory care residents are sheltered from third hand tobacco smoke. There are very few smoking control signs; as they are no longer needed.
We toured five residential care sites. In each we recited my wife’s Alzheimer’s behaviors and my problem with third hand tobacco smoke. One memory care site questioned taking a person who hit back when hurried.
Texas licenses sites as 16-bed or fewer and more than 16-beds. A 16-bed site optimizes construction and operation cost.
No showers in the apartments; just one big, warm, shower room. The residents like warm showers. No problem getting them into the shower,
The kitchen is the focal point for the four-table dining and activity area. Every move the cook makes can be observed. Every food odor is detected. The cook knows them well enough that food waste is at a minimum.
The activity area looked just like Provision Living, when we moved in two years ago, and there was a full time memory care director. There is little problem getting residents to take part in activities or to eat their meals. 
Well-trained worker turnover is also at a minimum. A set of 25 cameras showed all areas except in apartments. There was a general practice of attempting a service three times on a shift; noting failure on a communication log; attempting the service three times on the next shift; and again on the third shift if needed (the need for proper tooth brushing for example observed by our dentist).
A more expensive site had an aromatherapy dispenser running in every apartment and scattered through out the public areas. They had no effect on my sense of smell or congestion! The other sites considered it a marketing fad. My lack of response was do to “the carefully selected pure oils we use.”
[I detected a change in odor between the hall and the living room near the entry door, this morning. This was a surprise. I was in a hurry getting to the 8:30 fitness class. Another person has had headaches since the latest odorant was installed and who can detect it throughout the day. Proper operation is for a detectable odor for one or two breaths; to promote a 10% increase in cash flow in a boutique.
Using a stronger, always detectable, concentration is common in homes, bathrooms, and elegant formal occasions. It is not recommended where people are already under respiratory stress, especially those with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease); an illness most often caused by the tobacco smoke needed to self-treat their nicotine addiction. They need to avoid fumes, toxins, second & third hand tobacco smoke and dust. WebMD]
Our best arrangement, if in San Antonio, may be with my wife in a memory care unit and me living with the grandkids, tobacco free, a few miles apart. We will check this out in April when I accompany the grandkids to the NASA rocket contest in Huntsville, AL.
We observed no overweight residents. My wife now has problems, recently more often, standing up from a chair. She cannot get up from the floor.
Current thinking is we remain in place and I fly to San Antonio 3-4 times a year for a 1-2 week visit. I was informed my wife got along well while I was gone but does better when I am here.
We have yet to find anything like the fitness program I take part in here. Again, it is easy to place one person, it is very difficult to place two with very different needs: residentialcarefortwo.blogspot.com.
My wife treated me almost as a stranger when I returned this afternoon, before an endless fire alarm drill that was most upsetting to the residents. She broke out into a smile more than once later when residents were commenting about the lecturing by another resident: her walking buddy and our former eye doctor.
[On the second day of my return, my wife knew who I was and gave me a big hug and grin before returning to her keepsakes.]
My wife did not eat breakfast for many years before coming to Provision Living. Trying to get her to eat breakfast, “to get with the system” failed. Times have changed.
My wife was found on the floor in our apartment the first two mornings that I was gone. Thereafter a caregiver got her up before her normal mid-morning time and out of the apartment to breakfast. No more falls.
Today she was finishing brunch with three other residents, as I returned at 10:00 from “Start Your Day with Stretching” followed by physical therapy. My trip to San Antonio paid off in the discovery of yet another adjustment to my wife’s ever changing behaviors.

This is getting too long. I have survived the hurt of going alone and not sharing the trip. It is Friday and I need to cheer up by completing our income tax returns.