22 Feb 2016 -6-
We have now lived at Provision Living at Columbia (MO) for
six weeks. The original plan was for my wife to go to memory care each morning.
It is the next door beyond our two-bedroom apartment. This has not happened as
the adjacent 12 apartment unit will not be opened until after about another
five months.
This creates a problem shared with Mill Creek and Mill Creak
Arbors where one of two spouses living in assisted living must be transported
to a second building for memory care each day. Both sites raise the option of a
Home Instead caregiver being added from 8 to 11 each morning at
our house to get my wife up for the day and cook dinner and supper ($2,000 am +
$900 pm + $2,000 food, car, and house = $4,900/mo). Level of Care II a Provision Living at Columbia (MO), in March,
is an additional $600/mo or $7,100/mo total or (85,000/yr and $59,000/yr, a
difference of $26,000/yr)
Life in assisted living and memory care is quite different.
The passage of time is totally different. In assisted living, time is filled
with a scheduled set of activities that are, in part, designed and sponsored by
residents (Chart 1). In memory care, time is filled by a list of topics that
are orchestrated in every way by the mood and response of one or more groups
(Chart 2). This is a collective effort to achieve what is called “redirecting”
when working with an individual.
Chart 2. Memory Care by the Mood |
Assisted living follows the clock. The program success hinges
on schedules that are publicized and generally kept. In operation, room checks
before an event are often used to bring in a crowd. There is little downside to
missing an event.
Memory care follows a pattern of redirections. Timing is
critical to prevent a resident from falling out of the current activity and in
transitioning between activities. It is like watching an orchestra conductor
directing each player.
My wife gets great enjoyment from the bouncing ball eye and
hand coordination exercise. She appears to be playing basketball with all of
the faking, eye movements, and diverted tossing to other players. This stalling
entertains most of the group but drives one resident to distraction. However,
if I bounce the ball to this lady, repeatedly, two or three times, she is back
with the group with a smile.
The downside for my wife is to be lost in time and to some
extent in place. I must depend on assisted living activities to be on time and
in place when I am lucky enough to make a good redirect, or the rest of the day
is lost to the “worries”.
One scheme for the “worries” is to visit our old house (10
minute trip). She no longer calls
it “home” but seems to enjoy both the trip (we just drive by) and being there
10 minutes to two hours cleaning, painting, and etc. Each stay ends when it is,
“time to go home, where ever that is”.
Our apartment is too far away for a memory care resident
assistant (RA) to easily come and get my wife. An assisted living RA is more
available and much more successful in redirecting my wife to an activity than I
am. (A common experience I am told.) Level of Care II may solve part of this
problem in March.